An enviable marriage journey that lasted 50 years. Have you ever met a couple that made you envy what they had? I don’t mean in the negative way that we view Pinterest-perfect good-looking and rich couples.
I mean the real, down-to-earth couples who love each other with such depth and understanding that they draw you in and make you wonder how they do it. I remember one time when my wife and I were first dating, we attended a church service where this gray-haired couple in front of us bobbed up and down together to the music.
Their sides glued together like they were newly in love, his arm around her shoulder. Almost 10 years later, it’s a picture that we both remember vividly, not because they were “a cute old couple,” but because we could see they had that deep love for one another; the love we desperately hoped for in our relationship. Nine years into marriage, I now understand that getting to that point takes a lot of hard work. If you and your significant other are doing the below things in your relationship, you should celebrate that fact together; you are on your way to creating that deep love we all dream about.
This is a game-changer. Once I learned that my wife’s love language is “words of affirmation,” I immediately upped my appreciation of her, which made a huge impact on our relationship. Don’t hesitate on this one. Figure out your significant other’s love language and then love them in that way. I’m an introvert and sometimes I need space. It took my wife and me a while to figure that out but once we did, things we once thought were issues suddenly became easy to fix: I just needed some time to myself to regain energy. Here is a simple test to figure out if you’re an introvert or extrovert.
